A person's success depends on his way of thinking. The mode of thinking can be roughly divided into two categories, one is growth thinking, and the other is fixed thinking.

The difference between the two is that the former believes that his ability can be improved through efforts; The latter believes that their intelligence and ability are quantitative and will not change. Children with growth-oriented thinking are not easy to give up and enjoy the process more.

Therefore, if parents only praise their children's intelligence, they will make them think that their abilities are only related to those quantitative talents, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's growth thinking.

This article has collected 15 kinds of correct ways to praise children. If parents use them skillfully, children will make continuous progress.

Stop saying "you are smart" and start saying

one

You work hard! - Praise efforts

When your child presents you a beautiful work, don't be overwhelmed by joy. Please remember to acknowledge his hard work and efforts.

two

Although it is difficult, you never give up Praise perseverance

When a child completes a challenging task for him, such as pondering over a chess game, trying to climb high on the playground, and trying again and again after countless failures, please remember to affirm his patience and perseverance.

three

Your attitude to doing things is very good Praise attitude

When children are full of positive energy for the task they are facing, don't forget to seize the opportunity to say a few words.

four

You are____ A lot of progress has been made! - Praise details

When the child's ability in some aspect is improved, the more specific the praise details, the better. For example, baby, you now have a more standard hand posture when swimming, and the breathing rate is also more uniform, which has improved a lot than before, great!

five

This method is really innovative! - Praise creativity

This is the most important thing to pay attention to. Seeing children's whims, it is easiest to link people with "smart", but is it really "smart"?

It should be the accumulation of creativity and thinking. It is the brain hole that children gain after trying countless possible solutions! So it's right to praise "creativity"!

six

You and your partners have worked very well! - Praise the spirit of cooperation

No matter how capable a person is, what he can do is also limited. If the child and his partner work together to accomplish something and do it well, please seize the opportunity to affirm the child's cooperation and communication ability!

seven

You are very responsible for this matter! - Praise leadership

Although some things are not done by the child alone, he is responsible for management. He does well because he has a strong sense of responsibility and leadership. Praising this point can let the child know that although he has not personally done it at every step, it is also a very important ability to make it happen.

eight

You are not afraid of difficulties at all. It's very rare! - Praise courage

Praising a child's courage is the best time to help him increase his "confidence index".

nine

You help_____ It's great to have finished her task! - Praise enthusiasm

"When you give roses to others, you will have a lingering fragrance in your hand". Helping others is a virtue. You must praise your child's enthusiasm and encourage him to help others more.

At the same time, it can also let him know that there are many ways to overcome difficulties. In addition to his patience and perseverance, asking for help from others and learning from others' experience, it is also a very effective way.

ten

It's good of you to tidy up your room/books Praise responsibility and organization

Being able to tidy up their own territory, tidy up their belongings and take care of them is a reflection of their sense of responsibility and work methodically. This is the basis for children to do other things well. It is necessary to praise and encourage them.

eleven

I trust you because ______. - Praise credit

Good credit will make a child's life more smooth, so we should help him establish it in time.

For example, when making an appointment with your child, you can say "I believe you, because you have kept your word several times", "I believe you, you will find a good way"

twelve

You did very well in the event today! - Praise participation

Participating in activities can broaden our horizons and absorb more nutrients. When children actively participate in activities and perform well in activities, we must encourage their sense of participation.

thirteen

You attach great importance to the opinions of others, which is very good Praise the open and modest attitude

It is so nice that you value other people’s opinions.

Learn good advice and experience from others, and your ability will continue to improve. People with growth thinking generally have an open and modest attitude

fourteen

I'm glad you made such a choice Praise choice

It is sometimes because of hard work, sometimes because of changing strategy and making the right choice that can accomplish the task excellently. Praise strategy is also the key to cultivate growth thinking.

fifteen

You remember _____! Good idea! - Praise for being careful

Carefulness is not only reflected in prudence, but also in the comprehensiveness and multi-angle of children's consideration.

When going out to play, the child didn't forget to take an umbrella. Later it rained and it was really necessary. The careful child checked the weather forecast of the day before going out. At this time, his parents should praise him for his care and consideration.