Experts pointed out that in the process of children growing up to avoid the following seven kinds of bad parenting:
(1) bad quality of parents: parents themselves misbehave, subconsciously influence the children's character habits.
(2) Broken family: family breakup, the child is left out or become a punching bag, thus easy to be attracted by social vices, self-abandonment or rebellious attack on others.
(3) Low cultural quality of parents, lack of scientific education methods: mostly manifested in simple and rough education methods, so that children are at a loss, easy to stray from society and various behavioral problems.
(4) Pampering and spoiling: due to the endless satisfaction of children's requirements, it is easy for children to form greedy, lazy, selfish, capricious character, poor social adaptability, strong dependence, easy to be lured by bad people, so as to embark on the evil way can not be extricated.
(5) laissez-faire: some parents are busy working and earning money, thinking that with money comes everything, neglecting the education of their children; there are also parents who see that their own methods of discipline do not work, and there is nothing they can do to help and laissez-faire.
(6) Contradictory: between parents or with grandparents, in the education of children inconsistent attitude, one side of the tube, one side of the protection, the child to take advantage of this protection of the shortcomings of the psychological, lying, unscrupulous, do whatever they want.
(7) Psychological abuse type: at present, less scolding and abusing children, but due to the lack of knowledge of mental health, psychological abuse phenomenon is extremely serious. One is to deprive the child of normal psychological needs, such as friendship, games, self-esteem and so on. Everything to the adult's idea, looking forward to the eagerness of the child, forcing the child to learn this and that, or blindly compare with other children, and often sarcastic sarcasm as a means of stimulation of the child; the second is the negative psychological stimulus is too strong, the child suspicion, and even check the child's diary, tracking, etc., in their eyes, the child is always not good enough. The child's good behavior can not get timely encouragement, and over time the child broke or reverse, became a problem child.
Obviously, the harm of bad tutoring is serious, directly affecting the mental and physical health of children. It is worth noting that parents often think that their children are filial and unintelligent, do not pay attention to subtle guidance and education, and are obsessed with mandatory orders. Some parents complain that they have paid all their efforts and financial resources for their children, but as a result, they still have problems. This is mainly due to the psychological state of adults and expectations of children, not according to the child's psychological and temperament characteristics of the child tailored to the cause of education. Therefore, the basic principle of combating bad parenting is to pay attention to children's mental health, improve parenting and tailor teaching to the needs of the child.