Adolescence is a stage of life that every child must go through, this period of time the child in addition to the high-speed accumulation of knowledge, the body and mind are also growing rapidly, the gradual establishment of their own values, in this vibrant stage of life, the child will appear to be sentimental, emotionally unstable, contradicting the teacher, the parents and other behaviors, this is not the child learns the bad, difficult to manage, in this particular period, mothers and fathers should learn to use a sensible mind to Tolerance, acceptance of the child, not to blame the child, not to invite relatives and friends on their rounds of sermons, but to diversify thinking, let the child to make their own choices when things happen.

We just need to tell our children as much as possible what people are doing, rather than asking them what they should do, so that they can weigh the pros and cons on their own, so that they can realize the accumulation of the right amount of wrongdoing. To fully respect and trust the children in adolescence, into the hearts of TAs.

How to minimize friction with children in daily life? I have a few tips that I would like to share with my friends.

First, start from the details of daily life, reduce unnecessary friction on the harm of affection.

Many friends are complaining about the child in the morning three times five times called up, get up and do not fold the quilt, desk messy, wear clothes regardless of the season, the rain is not willing to hit the umbrella, etc., often for these trivial matters of life to the child nagging endlessly, causing the child to resent, hurt the affinity, so in the case of ineffective teaching, we may wish to look at a different way of thinking, in order to get up to the child does not fold the quilt as an example, to the TA to replace the quilt does not need to fold up, pull flat! The quilt can be, the contradiction is not solved? Difficulty in getting up in the morning, a wake-up call, tell TA no longer called, late let TA late, late a few times on the late, otherwise the child's heart is always dependent on the mother will continue to call TA, more than a minute is a minute to rely on, once the late will also complain about the mother why not call early, these phenomena in general is the child's dependence on the heart of the too heavy at the same time the parents suffered from caring obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Develop good habits is important, but also very good, but to prioritize and reduce unnecessary friction on the parent-child relationship, thus more conducive to correcting the child during this period of time there are other important issues, but also conducive to the cultivation of children's good emotional intelligence.

Second, listen carefully and patiently to the child to finish the sentence, do not misinterpret the child's intentions

Daughter's classmates in no shortage of rich children, often luxury car to send, we do not have a private car, the child has been taking the bus, the child lives in school, I had proposed to Saturday afternoon to pick her up by electric car, she did not allow, insisted on taking the bus home, I feel very difficult, and then one day it rained, the child on the tutorials to go, asked for the evening when the father to go to pick her up, said that the hands of the mother is not strong, electric car is too heavy, every time the mother ride! She was so worried when her mom took her on the electric bike. I heard this in the kitchen and was moved to tears. I was glad that I didn't say the wrong thing about my child.

Imagine how aggrieved she would have been if I had "bluntly" blamed my child when she wouldn't pick her up. We can't let the innate goodness of our children pass away in such misunderstandings and end up lamenting the selfishness of our children.