"Do you always have time before you get me? After you get me, you always have no time?" After the first intimate contact, the boyfriend began to be cold and violent and disappeared, and elegantly and angrily broke up: "Man, only the lower body!"
Yaran vowed to "guard against death" in the next love: "If a man does not promise to marry me, then the first time between us must be kept until after marriage. I will never let a man easily 'succeed'!"
A group of friends comforted Yaran one after another. As one of the few men in the "lovelorn situation", I was also puzzled: Are men really lower body animals? Men fall in love for a moment's pleasure, and don't cherish it after they get it?
I am skeptical of this conclusion, but whether it is the consulting cases received in reality or the online contact stories, there are many women who are complaining that the first intimate contact is the watershed of men's attitudes, which is very different before and after sleeping.
As a man, I can say responsibly that it is natural for two people to want to kiss each other when they are in love. It can enhance the enthusiasm of love. But if after the first intimate contact, the temperature of love does not rise but falls, and the other party even starts to ignore and evade, it is probably because they did not want to have a good relationship at the beginning.
This kind of love is not only "hurting" but also sad. How can we identify such "getting tired of" objects at the beginning of dating or love? You can try to judge from the following aspects.
He always talks about skin kiss or puts it into action. The reason why people wear the coat of civilization is to cover the traces of primitive desire. If a person loves you, although he is eager to be close to you, he will suppress his original desire, give you time, respect your feelings, and slowly understand you. However, it is difficult for those who do not have long and patience to see your feelings. They only have their own desires in their hearts.
He is a man of strong purpose. Life should enjoy the process, not just the purpose. But some men are on the contrary. Once their goals are achieved, they immediately withdraw their enthusiasm and change their faces. So once you show such traces in the early stage of communication or in the workplace, please be careful, and it may be no exception in terms of emotion.
He lacks concentration and perseverance. When he saw other people learning guitar, he joined the class to play two; When he saw others trading in stocks, he learned to do it; When he sees other people changing cities, he also thinks about moving... If he reveals such details to you at the stage of mutual understanding, please be careful. People who are difficult to continuously devote themselves to one thing are also very easy to change their feelings.
He likes to pass the buck when things happen. If you find that he is in trouble and likes to push it to the other party instead of thinking about how to solve the problem, please also light a red light in your heart. For example, in the first intimate contact, it is easy to shift the responsibility to the other party, ignore the communication, and then find the right person through frequent replacement of objects.
He is extremely insecure and self-confident. If your target is inferiority complex and insecure, will you feel that he is "eaten" by you and can't easily dislike you. In fact, some people want to roll the sheets as soon as possible because they think that sex is the only way to possess, conquer and deeply connect with a person. Subconsciously, such a person cannot be convinced of your love through other charm.
Of course, I also want to clarify for many male compatriots. More often, the cold reaction after the first intimate contact is relatively mild. Men will feel that they have a deeper connection with you, so they will not be as eager to contact as before the intimate relationship, which is just a temporary relaxation. But many girls will magnify this "slackness", feel that their boyfriend will not cherish when they get it, and think that their boyfriend hates themselves.
It is better to calmly express your feeling of being left out than to quarrel and complain. If he doesn't intend to fall in love, such communication will make him feel ashamed and you can stop loss in time; If he just slacks off for a while, such a reminder will make him get up and apologize to you: "Honey, it's me!"