Marriage is a happy ending to a long love affair and the beginning of a new phase of life. Many girls are full of fantasies about marriage and have high expectations. But the reality is often not so, in the period of love, the boys effort all heart force to coax you, accompany you, love you. After marriage, he took up more family responsibilities, on the old, in the wife, under a small, is very common family structure. At this stage, the boys not only have to make money to support the family, but also have to bear the responsibility of the two families. It is completely different from the state before marriage.
For girls who are bent on being little princesses, these are a few suggestions that must be pondered over.
1,Love yourself, do not get married too early
I have a lot of junior high school on the side of the marriage and children of their peers, standing in my perspective, in fact, I am very disapproving of their marriage, the two have not grown up children, because of the so-called sexual attraction to come together, get married and have children, they can really walk for a long time?
The answer is certainly not, marriage is not child's play, marriage looks good, but hidden countless sufferings and trials, after marriage, we are no longer children, we have to take up the responsibility of the family, we have to support the family, take care of the elderly, raising children, we have not grown up it? Suddenly you have to carry such a big family, do you think you will really be happy if you marry so early?
2,Recognize each other, don't talk about it
Marriage is a lifelong thing, never a child's home, married today, one day unhappy divorce, and then live their own lives, obviously this is not possible.
A good marriage, is the icing on the cake, a good marriage, is to report the warmth, a good marriage, is hand in hand, if you have been in the marriage life is the silent pay side, then you have to be vigilant, your marriage is really what you want, your other half, whether it is really what you love, or whether he really loves you deeply.
Character, above all, all the girls, before you get married to recognize your other half, whether he really loves you, he is not responsible and responsible, can hold up the family man, he has no bad habits, violent tendencies and so on, whether he has a kind heart, will honor the elderly.
Maybe you think I long-winded, but these are the conditions that a husband should have, he may not have money, but must be progressive, he can not look handsome, but must be enough to love you, he can be an ordinary person, but must have the general ordinary people should have the virtues.
3,Responsible for themselves, not to marry far away
Now a lot of girls, they think it's no big deal to marry far away, as long as their other half love themselves enough to marry far away and what's the harm in it, they even for their parents to discourage disdain, and think far away from the good, however, as a parent who has been there, there is always foresight.
Here, I do not exclude you from marrying far away, not to prevent us girls from marrying far away, just in my opinion, if not far away, we are still the children of the parents, we will accompany the parents to finish their next life, and between the parents, but also can take care of each other, if far away from the marriage, equal to we have no parents, parents also have no daughter.
No parents of the child is the most pitiful, the future we suffered in the in-laws what aggression, we have no way to talk about it, if your husband loves you enough okay, at least he will comfort you, if you do not have a bright eye to recognize your husband before marriage, no parents after marriage, you married far away from you, by not only your husband's family of the exclusion of more isolation and helplessness. Falling leaves return to the roots, ancient travelers still have parents in, not far away from the saying, modern people, should know, the importance of parents to relatives.
Finally, I want to say is that we women, we must maintain economic independence, which is the basis for us to maintain the dignity, do not believe that men say "do not go to work, I support you" and so on, over time, he will feel that you're useless, that you only spend money, I do not know that you spend every penny, spent on the family, not on you! The family, not on your own.
Maintaining financial independence is your biggest asset after marriage. Full-time motherhood is the hardest job in the world. No paycheck, no days, no nights, no one cares, no one understands. You stay home all day with the kids and even make dinner for your husband and mother-in-law who are at work, and they come home, eat their fill and blame you for not doing the dishes.