Having a harmonious family atmosphere is very beneficial to everyone's physical and mental health. So how can we create such a good atmosphere?

Parents

01

Always remember "lead by example". Parents are the most direct model for children to learn. The role of example is more subtle than that of words. So parents should first think about whether they have done this before asking their children.

02

Don't be hard on children. Parents always want their children to be outstanding and promising; There are also those who, for some reasons, did not realize their dreams at that time, so they hoped that the next generation could achieve them. With such an idea, it is inevitable to be strict with children. The most intuitive thing is to pay close attention to academic performance. Once you fail to get the ideal score, you will feel disappointed or even angry, and blame your child for not winning. Such harshness will not only discourage children from learning, but also hurt their self-esteem. As a result, the performance may not be improved, but the psychology has left a shadow.

03

Be good at controlling emotions. In terms of military technology, it is absolutely taboo to easily express happiness and anger in color, which is also very appropriate for parents. Facing children, parents must learn to grasp and hide emotions, especially bad emotions. If you encounter unhappiness and grievance in your work or life, you should learn to adjust yourself and then go home. You should not look at your children's left and right side because of your unhappiness, treat them as a vent of anger and throw a tantrum. Your dissatisfaction and resentment have been vented, but the child's heart is full of haze. There are also parents who are moody. When they are happy, they treat their children as the apple of their eyes. When they are unhappy, they abandon their shoes, which makes them nervous and nervous every day. How can they grow up healthily?

04

Respect children. Children also have their own thoughts. Just because they are their parents, they can not ignore their feelings, interfere in their lives and make any decision for them. Try to recall how you expected your parents to treat you when you were a child. In the face of important choices in life, parents should not make up their own minds, but analyze the advantages and disadvantages with their children, discuss and weigh the decisions together. Children can also experience the good intentions of their parents and learn to be responsible for their own decisions.

05

Be optimistic and confident. Xiao Qi has a friend's relative. The family conditions are not very good. Her mother sighs every day. The most common sentence she says to her son is "our family is poor and can't compare with others, so it depends on you". Her original intention is to encourage children to be aggressive, but what she reveals between the lines is a very negative and self-reliant thought. It is obvious that her son's character is becoming more and more withdrawn and self-reliant, and the brothers and sisters of relatives can't communicate with him at all, let alone play with him. I believe he is also full of pessimistic thoughts about life. So parents must adjust their attitude, let their optimistic and positive attitude infect their children, and let them also be confident, so that they can work hard to create a better future.

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Don't always complain. Nine out of ten things in life are not as good as you want. If there is failure, we should start from our own point of view and rationally analyze the problem, instead of constantly complaining to our family about the unfairness and difficulties as soon as we get home. Over time, children will become a person who shirks responsibility, because in their hearts, it is all others who have problems, or the reason why they fail is that someone is embarrassing me. With such thoughts, people will also become indifferent, selfish, and self-motivated. So parents should never complain in front of their children, even if the children may not understand what you say.

Children

01

Be considerate of your parents. I'm afraid that children will not really experience the hard work and effort until they are upgraded to be parents. Anyway, parents are working hard to create better living conditions for their children. Just like you will be criticized by teachers at school, and you will inevitably be frustrated at work. It is not easy to understand your parents' difficulties. If you can't solve their problems for them, be clever and don't be naughty.

02

Take the initiative to communicate with your parents. Many children will say anything to their parents when they are young, but as they grow older, especially when they reach puberty, the work of confidentiality becomes better and better. At the same time, parents are busy with their work and gradually no longer have time to communicate with their children. The gap between the two sides is gradually established. It is no exaggeration to say that some parents know their children less than their deskmates! Some parents become extremely indifferent because they want to give their children private space, which is completely contrary to their original intention. So children should take the initiative to find time to chat with their parents. They can talk about difficulties in learning or vague emotional confusion, so that parents can better understand themselves and close the psychological distance between each other.

03

Don't grudge the expression of love. In fact, children love their parents very much in their hearts, but maybe they become shy when they grow old, or they are always reluctant to pass on this kind of mind to their parents because of their homesickness. Some children are too sensible and have done many things for their parents but not let them know, resulting in many misunderstandings and contradictions. In fact, a family should be honest. Don't think how difficult it is to say "Mom and Dad, I love you". I believe that such a heartfelt sentence will make parents feel as good as you did in the exam.