Two days ago, the couple in the neighborhood had a big fight because their children were playing with mobile phones. It turns out that because the summer vacation is about to end, the children's training classes and homework have also reached the end stage. The mother thought that the child had been tired for more than a month. Fortunately, the rest of the holiday would be enough for the child to play. So the restrictions on children were gradually relaxed, even if children were laughing with their mobile phones all day long. Who ever thought that such a simple idea of letting children relax has caused unexpected disasters. Because of playing with mobile phones for a long time, children's work and rest become disordered, and sometimes they don't even eat.
At 12 o'clock in the morning, the child should have fallen asleep at this time.
However, when the mother opened the door of the child's bedroom, she found the child hiding in the quilt playing with mobile phones, accompanied by bursts of laughter
The mother grabbed the child's mobile phone, sent out anger and ordered the child to sleep immediately.
In the face of his mother's control, the child sniffed and even shouted at last: Didn't you let me play? Then what do you care about me? In a word, choking mother can't say anything... Sometimes, we just want to let the child relax and be happy, but we don't know that it is this kind of idea that harms the child invisibly. Because you are indulging your children in "junk happiness". In recent years, too many news items have been discarded because of their obsession with garbage and happiness. Some have lost their eyesight because of playing games, some are tired of thinking because of pursuing variety shows, and some are watching some vulgar videos because of pursuing stimulation.
The original intention of these children's parents is to feel happy and calm. But is it true?
Psychologist Adam Arte said: games, gossip, live broadcast and other entertainment products can make people addicted if they are not careful
Don't ruin your child's life because of your indulgence.
It is not uncommon for children to be addicted to junk happiness. A few days ago, a little boy in Anhui was on the hot search for "spending 130000 yuan to play mobile games".
At the age of 9, Xiaoke has become "crazy" since she became addicted to mobile phone games. She not only spends a lot of time playing games every day, but also falls in love with Krypton, spending more than 130000 yuan in a short month.
Mom said that was the money for the home mortgage.
Do you remember the news of a middle school student jumping off a building in Anhui? The reason is that he can't control his mobile phone.
Such reckless crazy behavior makes people feel sad at the same time. Junk happiness is so terrible. Recently, children at friends' homes have also fallen in love with short videos. They often swipe two or three points at a time and hum various BGMs.
She once thought of confiscating her mobile phone and forcing her child to have an early rest, but her lover believed that the child was conscious and knew the right amount. The result is obvious that the child fell quickly in the rich and wonderful garbage world, and their grades fell by three zhang, and the two people repented. Although the more self-conscious the better, the child's self-control is not yet mature, and it is easy to be biased by the colorful world. When they taste superficial happiness and get used to shallow thinking, they will produce inert thinking and completely destroy it. Junk happiness is so terrible that children can't be expected to be self-conscious.
Junk happiness is the poison of children's growth. A study by the National Institutes of Health of the United States shows that children who indulge in temporary happiness for more than two hours a day often get lower scores in thinking and language tests. Because their cerebral cortex has thinned prematurely, which is actually related to long-term short-term pleasure. It turns out that most of the information is fragmented for a short time. After children have been exposed to this information for a long time, their brain has become accustomed to receiving this superficial stimulation and has become lazy or disdainful to think deeply. In the long run, it will be difficult for them to maintain high intensity of attention and thinking for a long time, let alone to improve and maintain their academic performance. Junk happiness is harmful to people, and when they fall into junk happiness, the tragedy is quietly staged. But if we can get rid of it in time, there will be another world. The writer Zhang Hongjie liked reading very much when he was young, and often stayed in the library for a whole day. However, after work, influenced by his colleagues, he fell in love with playing cards, which was much easier than reading. Therefore, playing cards filled his life instantly, and his life became extremely happy. However, it was not long before he realized that he could not be so depressed. After a self-inspection, he picked up the book again and slowly nibbled again.
The happiness in books comes slowly. You need to read carefully and chew repeatedly before you can taste a sweet taste. Of course, it is not as happy as playing cards. But for Zhang Hongjie, that period of time has been wasted. He will not go back and let himself fall into garbage and happiness. So he is quietly enriching himself and settling himself.
In the end, he became a best-selling author and became famous. However, his poker colleagues remained in their original positions and were at a loss in the face of layoffs.
Such a gap cannot be avoided. Junk happiness is like a beautifully packaged candy, coaxing you to eat it and craving the sweetness on the tip of your tongue. Unexpectedly, it is also eating your teeth and eating your soul. Junk happiness is widening the distance between children and their peers. Only by saying no in time can we have a happy life.
Parents are the most effective antidote. Young children do not have good self-control. Once they taste the joy of garbage, it is difficult to put it down again.
Children are still young. They may not understand what's wrong with junk happiness. They just think that being happy now is enough.
However, we should tell our children that happiness can be divided into good and bad.
Therefore, parents need to intervene to ensure the healthy growth of children. When children are addicted to junk happiness, we may try these three methods:
(1) Looking for a child's love. The fundamental reason why children indulge in junk happiness lies in their greed for "happiness". So the best way to get children out of the mire in time is to find a deep level of happiness. This kind of happiness is a child's hobby. The reason why the Beida God Wei was named a god was not only because of his high mathematical talent, but also because of his "three no life": no TV, no mobile phone, no WeChat. Holding two steamed buns and a bottle of mineral water, you can travel in the mathematical universe for a whole day. Maybe you wonder if this man is stupid? However, for Wei Shen, mathematics is his greatest happiness.
When he finds his hobby and studies it from morning to night, he will obtain an unprecedented pride and full happiness. Children who enjoy high quality happiness can no longer settle for the nihility and temporary pleasure. Substitute hobbies for garbage and happiness, which is healthy and enrich children's behavior, is the way we need most.
(2) Regular work and rest is a good medicine. Recently, the official WeChat of Northwest Polytechnic University published a schedule of Xueba's work and rest, which made netizens directly admire.
In this table, we distinguished what should be done at different times. In class, preparing for exams, memorizing words, doing experiments, sorting out notes, etc., behind the dense text is a self-disciplined and powerful soul. With such efficient study, his comprehensive evaluation ranked first in the age for three consecutive years, and he won 15 international, national and provincial scientific research, competition awards and other honors. It can be seen that he is a very excellent and strong academic bully, and such an excellent person will not stop his progress because of garbage and happiness. But our children are too young to be arranged so tightly at once. What should we do? It is advisable to start planning from the most basic work and rest, and set a good time for sleeping and getting up with the child to form a good biological clock. This will not only ensure the child's adequate sleep, but also lay a solid foundation for the formulation of the follow-up schedule. When the schedule is slowly full, children will gradually develop good self-consciousness and can say no to garbage. Such children must be self-disciplined and confident.
(3) If you love your child, grow up with him. For children, their parents' love is the basis of healthy growth. When they are not accompanied, they will subconsciously look for other alternatives. If garbage is happy, it will take advantage of it. Mobile phones are not the culprit of children's addiction to junk happiness. How children treat junk happiness depends on their parents' attitude. In the book "Father and Son Film Club", David found that his son Jesse suddenly rebelled, lied, skipped class, refused to communicate with his parents, and was obsessed with garbage and happiness.
But unlike other parents, David not only did not reprimand him, but also asked him to drop out of school temporarily and concentrate on accompanying the children. In the most rebellious three years, David and his children played, watched movies, and exchanged experiences. It was this intimate company that gradually brought Jesse's dirty life back on track. All these changes are due to the company of parents. They tell their children that they are no longer lonely. They fill their children's emptiness with love.
Rather than simply accusing brute force of quitting addiction, it is better to put down the mobile phone from now on, slow down the pace, and accompany the child with love and warmth to start again. If you can accompany, don't go away.
Krupkkaya said: love is not enough, but also good at love. The same is true of children's education. The real education is not simply YES and NO, but the satisfaction brought by company, the power brought by love, and the double enrichment of spirit and soul. After all, only the land full of crops will not breed weeds; Only the soul nurtured by love, garbage and happiness will not take advantage of it. Parents' companionship and love are the only wall of happiness around garbage. May our children not only ride the wind and waves in the wind and rain, but also see everything in the crisis.