In fact, marriage has affection, responsibility and sex in addition to love. If there is no love between two people, in principle, I do not advocate a marriage without love tied together rigidly. But very often, things are not as simple as outsiders think.
Today, we will start from the absence of love, but still want to continue the marriage, this time what to do?
It is actually very simple, we have to start with other factors of marriage, such as, affection, responsibility, sex. Many times marriage means responsibility, not that unhappy, I will divorce.
When love sublimated into affection, you have become accustomed to each other's existence, if you already have their own children, then this blood is thicker than water affection even more tied to you, just before this because the other person is his or her own partner, sometimes he / she will be a little harsh on him / her, so a lot of times will feel disappointed. At this time you just need to maintain this affection, just think of each other as a child's father / mother, and not give him / her other identity, there may be unexpected gains. Where the family, where the responsibility is, marriage is not to say that can be scattered so simple, when your heart has taken this responsibility to carry up, then other things are not as difficult as imagined.
In the issue of sex, couples still want to maintain harmony, as the saying goes: "couples quarrel bed and bed." A sentence is enough to prove how important the harmony of sexual life. When you run these aspects well, look back, the feelings are also in the subtle warming, the following aspects are worth noting a little.
Many people in the marriage will always ignore the feelings of the partner and the lack of communication between each other, which has its own small family after the work, life pressure increases have a certain relationship, and this directly leads to the consequences of the two people unlimited cold war, feelings in this unlimited cold war in the wear out. Husband and wife relationship is to be cultivated by both sides, just like raising flowers, and then good varieties, and then good fertilizer and sunshine, but without careful care, it will still wither. Couples have to communicate, no matter how it is now, how to get married is certainly because of the feelings that come together.
There is a common goal, there is a common belief. So usually couples have to communicate more, sympathize with each other, open each other's knots, you can take time off to spend some time to go out and remember the good things in the past. So want to maintain this almost broken marriage, both sides in the increase in communication and exchange based on, but also to stand more in each other's point of view for the thinking, more tolerance and understanding of each other. Once there are conflicts and differences, the first time to find ways to solve, rather than take the cold war approach, the cold war is a major taboo of marriage, is going to take the marriage "life".
When you put away the angles, live well with each other, each other will feel your changes, feelings are not naturally warmed up, slowly your marriage is no longer no feelings of maintenance of marriage, because the love in the subtle has become more and more thick. So, when you feel that the marriage has no emotional support, you can make the feelings "born" through the method of adaptation, then the marriage will naturally be able to maintain.