There is no absolutely correct view of love. After all, love is the simplest and most complex, the happiest and the most painful, the most straightforward, warm and implicit emotion in the world.
My most appreciated view of love is: two people stand side by side, the sun and the moon shine together in love, I am good enough to stand beside you, equal to you, while you hold up an umbrella for me, I can hold up a sky for you.
There are all kinds of love in the world. Behind them are different views of love. The view of love is very personal. There is no absolutely correct standard for what kind of love you want. There is only reasonable and unreasonable. On a reasonable premise, what suits you and meets your inner needs is the best. The rational view of love must have something in common. I think the following aspects are what a reasonable view of love should have:
- We are together because of love
Love, the first is love, the second is love. It is not difficult to have feelings with a person. It is easy to have feelings with people over time. Strangers help us, and we are grateful to him, but love is not so easy to produce. In love, love is the most important thing. Love is to have feelings for a person, appreciate him from the heart, desire to be close to him, want to give him the best in the world, and hope he will be happy and bright forever. When we love someone, we will have expectations for the future in our hearts and will have great light in our eyes.
We can't fall in love for the sake of falling in love and get married for the sake of marriage. This is purposeful and utilitarian. We must fall in love and get married because of love, love, not other factors.
- Respect the other party and don't force it
"Love comes too fast, like a tornado". We may suddenly fall in love with someone without any preparation, and the other person may not respond to our love. If you can't get his love after making efforts, you must respect him and never force him. It is not sweet to turn a corner. Love cannot be forced, nor can it be obtained by hard work or perseverance. It is so unreasonable. Love can not choose to respect and let go.
Similarly, in love, we should respect each other and understand each other. Everyone is an independent individual, with their own ideas and ways of life. We should respect each other's ideas and differences, seek common ground while reserving differences, tolerate each other, and not force each other to change. If you love someone, you should respect them, understand them, and not force them.
- Living in the present, not clinging to the past
When we meet a person, he may have experienced several relationships or marriages, and his past may be very rich. If we really love him and want to spend the rest of our lives with him, we should not dwell on the past, but live in the present. After all, the past can no longer be changed, while the present and future of him belong to us, and we the final say. Like what Watson said to Mary in Sherlock——
"Your past, I do not participate in, that is your business; your future, I will accompany you to the end, this is my honor."
- Know how to stop loss in time
Love is not all beautiful. Love also makes people blind, confusing, confused, and prone to make some wrong decisions and jump into some "pits".
It is inevitable that we will meet some inappropriate people, not so good people, even scum men. In the process of pursuing ta or love, we are suffering from torture and injury. If you find that you really can't go on, no matter how much you pay for this relationship, you must stop the loss in time. Don't be unwilling to give up because you have paid too much youth and energy, because you can't bear to give up. You will lose more in the future because you are wasting yourself.
There is no right or wrong in love, but you can't love blindly. Only by establishing a reasonable and suitable view of love can you better love each other and enjoy love.